Oh yes she did!
On my “Who’s Who” page, where I briefly outline the players in this merry little band, I mention my Psycho
Yes, she’s really a Psychologist.
Yes, she should REALLY know better. (It will all make sense in just a few short minutes). But first, a little background:
One of the original concerns Us Four mentioned to Dad (and there were only 8 – some of which were essentially duplicates – but I digress) specifically related to Psycho
logistAunty. More particularly, the level to which she was manipulating (either knowingly or unconsciously) his relationship with Angel currently, or the level to which she would be “drawn into” Dad and Angel’s marriage in the future.
We were concerned because Angel had been demonstrating patterns and behaviours not conducive to a healthy Christian marriage (Don’t judge me for using that term).
And, yes, I know a thing or two about healthy Christian marriages. My parents were married for more than 35 years and provided my brother and I an exemplary demonstration of a loving, growing, vibrant, healthy Christian marriage.
What was it that concerned Us? Well, after clearly telling me that she didn’t want to have anything to do with Us Four after marrying Dad, and after that became an issue between her and Dad that needed dealing with (rightly so, in my opinion), rather than act like a grown up and discuss or debate and eventually RESOLVE the issue – she threw a tantrum (YES, a literal tantrum minus the writhing on the floor) and refused to discuss it with Dad ever again!
Instead, it’s become clear that she ran off to Psycho
logistAunty to bemoan the situation to HER. Obviously Psycho logistAnuty urged Angel to just ignore it, refuse to discuss it, and hope it all just went away.
Why would Angel be running off to my Psycho
logistAunty, dibber dobbing on her secret boyfriend, or his kids, and asking her for advice?
Great question – one that’s never been answered, but probably should.
If any of my friends ever did that to me (ie running to me to complain to me about their new secret boyfriend or his kids) I’d give her the proverbial Biblical Slap on the Face. Rather than tell her what she WANTED to hear, I’d tell her what she NEEDED to hear (ie – this is a LEGITIMATE issue and one that you NEED to discuss with your boyfriend, and him ONLY. It’s not right to come to ME for advice – this is not MY relationship. My only advice to you is that you CANNOT avoid this very important issue, and it’s one that you need to resolve. If you can’t or won’t resolve it, I would suggest to you that the relationship is already on VERY rocky ground and you should just end it before you hurt you or he even further).
So, after having brought you up to speed Dear Reader, my brother received a rather disturbing email from Psycho
logist Aunty over the weekend. It was sent to his word email address, so she would have known he would receive it first thing this morning. I’ll prarphrase it, but even THAT won’t do it justice:
Let me arrogantly assert that I am your superior in every way – educationally, morally and ethically. You know nothing about the thing you were discussing with my husband last week, so let me put you straight:
Detailed description and alleged ‘correction’ ensue.
Now let me tell you how this description means that you are wrong in the way you act regarding this issue, and begin making the first of many baseless assumptions about what you really think, want, or have said.
I’ll admit that I am guilty of this false understanding myself, and even use it as a basis to judge some of the people to whom I and my husband are most close. They’re people you know too, like Name from Place.
However, having admitted that I’m guilty of this false understanding myself, I’m going to justify my own attitudes while simultaneously judge you as being wrong and deficient for doing the same thing as me.
Which brings me to Angel. While she fits the description of the issue of which you have a false and deficient understanding, your allegations and behaviours are unwarranted and wrong.
Now I’ll make some spurious accusations about Keira to you.
Remember, I’m continuing to add assumption after assumption. I’m using them as if they’re ‘gospel’ and twisting them around to suit my own goal which is, in case you forgot, to remind you that I’m your superior in every way, and you’re wrong about everything, and you need to capitulate to my position or you’ll prove you’re unreasonable, unintelligent and disrespectful.
Next I’ll accuse your Dad of being “simple”.
And I’ll end with a passive aggressive entreaty for you to capitulate to my position because I am the authority on all things and – remember – vastly superior to you in every way imaginable. You’re wrong. I’m right. And you need to capitulate to MY position (which is based on assumption and vested interests).
Needless to say, considering we don’t “do” secrets in our family (nor lies for that matter) Sean had the foresight to include Dad, Angel and Myself in his response to Psycho
logist Aunty. Obviously, she was unhappy with him having done this.
Really? She feels free to make assumptions, falsely accuse my brother, take the moral high ground while admitting she’s guilty of the same alleged offense, and has the audacity to whinge and moan to my brother about me AND Dad behind our backs!!!
Can you tell I’m cross about this?!